Series - Father Figure Features Part 2. Being A GOOD Dad

Anyone can father a child (aka have a baby), but not every father is a good Dad. Since I didn’t have an active Dad in my life, it is something I want different for my kids. I do not want that to be a cycle that continues. In a way, not having a supportive Dad growing up, pushed me to be a better Dad to my kids. 
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Below is a list I have been thinking about and putting together. This is for myself to keep the important details alive. I want to share this here in case it might be helpful for anyone else. Whether you are a Dad, son, daughter, or know a Dad-  feel free to share. 

Checklist for being a Dad
How to model:

• When you speak, grab attention (This is making sure you are giving AND earning respect, showing confidence, and your intentions.)
• Do not lie 
• Be a protector 
• Be a provider
• Try to stay calm and grounded ( You can not control other people, but you can control how you respond) 

Acts to be a Good Dad:

• Quality time: Spend time with kids and/or partner
• Eat together:  
  • Even if it is on FT, eating and asking your kids about their day goes a long way to building communication.
• Show affection: 
  • This can be a hug, high five, fist bump in person 
  • But it can also be a letter, a text message or small gift to show you are thinking of them, you are proud of them, and you SEE them. 
• Read to children 
• Never stop modeling and teaching. Your job as a father doesn't end when the kids leave the nest. ​