 How do you see yourself? Stop and take a minute to look and reflect. Things to think about as you ponder:
I live my life trying to rise above needing to prove myself, and just let my actions speak for my character. When you try to over explain yourself to others it diminishes your worth. I choose to walk away from disputes and not get sucked into the situation. Just walking away proves to them, and yourself, that you have self confidence and you believe in your own self worth –without having to say anything. So I say again, stop and reflect- How do you see yourself? Did you win yourself back?
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 Recently, a member of my family became interested in the military, so of course I wanted to do some research and dive into it a bit more. Along the way, I came across an acronym that I think applies not only to the military but also to everyday life—a way to become unstoppable. It’s now something I’ve added to my own list of things to acknowledge.
John Boyd created the OODA Loop to give fighter pilots an advantage and a structured way to think through the steps needed to take action. My takeaways are:
Intent matters. Recon—knowing everything you can—can be the difference between victory and defeat. Spend time alone instead of chasing short-term gratification.
As everyday citizens, we can also adapt this approach and find success—it’s all about mindset. I’m not saying I’m better than anyone; rather, this is an internal challenge you can take on with yourself. Think of it as a self-confidence boost. Feel free to watch this clip here to better understand the loop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSraVDJ-z-k It all starts with why—the reflection of it.
My purpose comes from where I came from. Having kids makes me feel like I need to do more. At the end of the day, I didn’t have the father figure to live up to, so I can be that example for myself and for the kids. Perhaps my accident pushes me to do more. As they say, I can't do this or that. I say, “Yea right, watch me.” I think it is my drive that pushes me. I may have the TBI but my sense of drive is still there. Even compared to “Bob next door”, it’s like we all need to be better. What are YOU doing? You do not want to live your life comparing yourself to Bob, you want to do good for YOU. Forget Bob.
 I sat in silence, waiting for a response. I got tired as I waited. I fell asleep and had the most amazing dream. God was talking to me. He showed me you, and two others making a life without anxiety or harm. There was abundance, not because of what I can do or have, but through Him all supersedes. He was showing me it is not what I am doing, or can do, but who He is, and always was. The Creator, the Alpha and Omega, the Beginning and the End. Nothing will happen that He hasn't seen first. We can try to change His plan, but be assured, He has seen that plan, too. His is better.  Anyone can father a child (aka have a baby), but not every father is a good Dad. Since I didn’t have an active Dad in my life, it is something I want different for my kids. I do not want that to be a cycle that continues. In a way, not having a supportive Dad growing up, pushed me to be a better Dad to my kids. Below is a list I have been thinking about and putting together. This is for myself to keep the important details alive. I want to share this here in case it might be helpful for anyone else. Whether you are a Dad, son, daughter, or know a Dad- feel free to share. Checklist for being a Dad How to model:
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